“However you wish to be treated by others is how you should treat everyone else.” Luke 6:31 (TPT)
As some of you know, in May of 2014, my ten-year-old son’s bone marrow was not functioning and his body was failing him. Regardless of the mechanism of the illness he was facing, he would need a bone marrow transplant in order to not only survive what he was facing, but also to be able to enjoy a healthy life. I remember sitting in the emergency room trying to listen to what the doctor was telling me, while at the same time, unable to ignore this very distinct voice inside me telling me that it was all going to be ok. All I needed to do, was trust God and trust the process.
For nearly a year of his life, my son was put in extreme isolation and asked to adhere to many different restrictions, including what he could and could not eat so as to give him the best possible odds of surviving the process of his current immune system being removed and replaced with a healthy immune system. We were given a very large packet of instructions to read over, explaining all of the restrictions, the medical process, the risks/dangers to everything they would be doing to him and the possible negative side effects to everything that was happening. After everything was explained to us, we were asked to sign a document giving the doctors permission to treat my son.
I am often brought back to this time in our lives and all that I learned. For a year of my life, because I love my son and value his life, I chose to not only trust the process, but I also needed to respect the hospitals and respect the doctors and respect the nurses and respect process. As his caretaker, I was unable to work for six months and my contact with the outside world needed to be limited as much as possible. Not only did I need to respect how all this would affect him, but I needed to respect how the process would affect me. I was not in danger of getting his illness and there was no law that said I had to adhere to these rules. Technically, I did not even have to agree to allow them to treat my son, but I trusted the plan and respected the process to the best of my ability, because I love my son and value his life. I did not want take any chances for my actions to negatively impact his life.
Whether we like it or not, the process of this Corona virus is happening. When my son faced his disease, there was a plan previously put in place for situations similar to his. That plan had been used and adjusted with the benefit of time and experience, but there was still no way to predict his body’s response to that plan. This left us with an uncertainty of how the plan would actually unfold and what we would face throughout the process. We had to be willing to let go of the illusion of control, trust the process and go with the flow. With this Corona virus faced by the entire world, there is no previous plan in place. The plan is being created as we go and there is no way to know exactly what will happen next. Our officials are watching other countries to get some idea of what to expect, but this still does not give an accurate picture, because the United States of America is not like any other country.
I say all this to say that I believe the only way to make this process as quick and painless as possible, is for all of us to respect the people giving us the plan and trust the process. They are not out to intentionally complicate our lives. They are simply doing their best to take into consideration the well-being of an entire nation as they sift their way through the process of fighting an invisible enemy; wasting time trying to Monday morning quarter back them does not help anyone. Like in my son’s situation, sometimes self-isolation is not as much for you as it is for the greater good of the situation we are facing. Had I not listened to the advice of the doctors, it would have made my son’s situation so much more complicated and longer than it needed to be. We may not have much control over the situation itself, but I do believe our response to the situation, may help determine the duration of time we have to deal with it. Like all the officials who are doing their best to sift their way through this constantly evolving experience, it is of utmost importance that we make our decisions based not only on what is best for ourselves, but on what is best for everyone involved.